Surmounting Barriers to Deeper Faith and Fulfillment
Not forgiving someone for hurting you may be one of the most common barriers to faithful, successful, purposeful living. It is detrimental to personal, spiritual, and professional growth because it clogs you up.
It is also one of the stealthiest barriers because it is internal and often unseen, but insidious and destructive!
As I look back on my 13 year journey to forgiving my father for some of the hurts I experienced as a child and adolescent, I realize that God has been trying to bless me for so long, but there was no room for what He was offering. I was clogged up. The purpose was choked out of me by feelings of hurt and regret.
Until we connect with purpose, that fulfilling success will never be experienced. We know this because we have all heard tales of fortune 500 CEO’s that are as unhappy as can be. Money, power, and worldly success aren’t the answers to the question about how to experience fulfillment. Purpose is.
Often we can’t find our purpose because it is buried under hurt, grudges, shame, regret, anger, and a host of other debilitating emotions.
I couldn’t understand the concept of giving someone something I didn’t think they deserved, or giving them a second chance to hurt me. It would take a long time before my perspective on this subject changed. It has, but if it hadn’t by now, one of the kids in the youth group at my church would have set me straight when we recently discussed forgiveness.
“You can’t truly understand forgiveness until you have experienced it.” Wise words from a 12 year old. He got what it took me 13 adult years to figure out.
Until I experienced forgiveness in my relationship with my heavenly Father and came to really understand and appreciate it, I couldn’t offer it completely to anyone else. Until I saw how integral it was to my own survival, I couldn’t see why I should bless someone else with it. Until I felt gratitude for my own pardon, I would never seek to pardon another.
My journey to forgiving someone I loved took so long because it was tied to my FaithWalk. I had to truly see myself as an offender too. When I saw myself and what I deserved as a result of my sin, and understood that God gives me what I don’t deserve and keeps me from what I do deserve each and every day, I became full and running over with forgiveness. I wanted to offer it to everyone.
That’s when the most miraculous things began to happen. Clarity started rushing in. I began to hear God’s call on my life. I began to receive direction about how He wanted me to walk out my purpose. Now I know exactly what fulfilling my purpose in this season of my life looks like, and now I know fulfillment.
I have a lasting joy that no one, nor any situation can take away from me. I am happy because God wants to use me and now I know how.
It takes faith in God, not humans, to offer someone the type of forgiveness He offers you. It takes faith to place someone in the position to possibly hurt you again. It takes faith, but if you will believe, forgiveness will be the single most powerful and freeing breakthrough you will ever experience! When you offer forgiveness to others, you in turn unclog your own life. If you haven’t already… leap over one of the tallest barriers to your success today!